Thursday, June 07, 2007

I am so not cut out for this job

I'm not good with this tantrum stage. It wears me down & burns me out. I'm trying my best to deal with them but it's like living with a manic depressive on crystal meth. One minute Doodles is sweet as pie, calling me "mama" & giving me kisses. The next minute she's thrown herself on the floor, screaming at top volume, bawling her eyes out because I told her not to eat lip balm. If we're out on the town she'll take it to the next level & add in some shin kicking & thrashing herself out of my arms because I have to drag her away from some fine china.

This was my yesterday & the day before & a few days before that as well. It was happening a couple of months ago but we nipped it in the bud with more sign language. All of a sudden the tantrums are back & with a new intensity. I'm not good with conflict. I hate loud noises, like high pitched screaming. I hate feeling embarrassed by bad behaviour (ya I know she's only little, it's a stage, blah, blah, blah). I hate not knowing what to do. I hate feeling angry & frustrated with a little kid. I hate it when she won't listen to me (or can't hear over her screams). What the hell am I doing wrong?


Maybe it's all in the stars. This was my horoscope yesterday:


"Stress might be getting the better of a member of your household today, dear Virgo. This person is feeling especially volatile emotionally, and the least little irritation could set off a temper tantrum. Try to ease the pressure by staying out of the way - and don't offer advice, however well intentioned it should be. This person needs to come to terms with whatever may be bothering him or her. So distance yourself and do your own thing!"


Other than the tantrums, she's doing great so I'm trying to concentrate on that to get me through the days. Her language skills have really taken off lately & she's got about 150 words in her vocabulary, plus all her animal noises. She's kind of freaking us out with her parrotting & we're going to start having to watch our words really soon. Doodle Bug already know how to say "ass" & Sugar Daddy keeps egging her on to say it. She knows most of her letters & colours, though she gets them mixed up from time to time. She's trying to count & will call out the numbers 8, 3, 10 & 18 as she goes down the stairs (which as of yesterday she can go down forward, no hands - talk about scary!). They aren't in order of course but it's pretty cute. So these are the things I try to think about when she's being a crazy nutbar & hope that the next developmental stage is around the nearest corner.

8 comments:

kokopuff said...

A friend of mine who is a person who has a lot of experience with developmental theory (but specifically at the post-secondary school level age because well hey that's what we do), recently had a baby (one year old last week) and she has been doing a lot of research on early development and we were talking about this particular phenom -- the good news is that this behaviour is apparently really really good for their development -- you have one smart independent cookie there! I'll try to remember to get the book she was specifically talking about; it sounded really interesting. Of course my developmental stage includes a high level of forgetfulness...In the meantime, good luck! (And see you soon)

Anonymous said...

I am so there with you! I am the one n the store with the child splayed out on the floor kicking and screaming because I won't let him trash the place. Mine is only 15 months, so I think it may never end.

Gabriella said...

Oh hell you're not alone!!! And this is why sometimes I dread going out to get togethers with friends because you just never know when Samantha's going to turn into Mr. Hyde. She switches from one mood to the next so fast.

Jenn said...

"What the hell am I doing wrong?" - Nothing! And don't you forget it!!

All of us mom's to "almost 2 year old's to Almost 3 year olds" are going through the same thing, and it's stressfull as hell. But I guess we all need to just grin and bear it and count the months on the calendar till the stage ends.

p.s. Doesn't having to start watching what you say on a regular basis SUCK!!!
*oh shit, I shouldn't say suck* *damn, I shouldn't say shit*
*OK, I need to just shut up now, or be quiet or something*

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a happier girl said...

I feel your pain. My 18 month old is just starting to throw flinging himself to the floor screaming fits. So frustrating. Don't let it get you down.

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